Becoming Gentle and Assertive
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. (I Peter 3:3-4)
This gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth to God, is not intended to be limited to women only. We know that because the same words were used by our Lord to describe his own spirit. In Matthew 11:29 he said, "Take My yoke upon you, and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart; and you will find rest for your soul." The words in these two passages are the same.
Frequently Jesus treated people with gentleness and compassion when others were condemning and intolerant. For example, the woman taken in adultery, the Samaritan woman he found at the well, and Zacchaeus the hated tax collector. It takes more strength to be gentle and quiet than it does to always say what we think. Gentleness is much more demanding and requires greater discipline and self-control.
But please keep in mind, Jesus' gentleness did not prevent him from being assertive. Jesus was often bold and assertive in his words and in his actions. For one example, think of how he threw the money-changers out of the temple when they were misusing God's house for their own personal gain.
Gentleness and assertiveness can comfortably coexist in the same person. What we have to do is pray for wisdom to know when to use a gentle approach and when to be more verbally assertive. Jesus had that kind of wisdom and, since we have his Spirit in us and we have the mind of Christ when we are born from above, we can confidently ask for his wisdom in these kinds of situations.
Gentle and assertive. It's a wonderful combination. Ask for it; it can be yours when you are a daughter of the King.
To have that gentle spirit which is of great value to God, and at the same time know when and how to be appropriately assertive.
Lord, I'm so thankful that you have not left me here to live the Christian life on my own because I could never do it. I thank you that your Spirit lives in me and you have promised to give me wisdom. Therefore, I pray that you will spread your gentle and quiet Spirit in me, at the same time give me courage and guidance to be assertive when I should be.
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