Tuesday, August 2, 2016
Get Over Unrealistic Expectations
Unrealistic Expectations of People
Undoubtedly our most common unrealistic expectations are the ones we have of other people. Most relationship struggles are created by our expectations not being met, and when those expectations are unrealistic, it puts a strain on that relationship that can be deadly.
All too often women think that husbands are going to make them happy all the time. They believe that a husband will speak their "love language," whether that be daily showers of words of love, gifts, and celebrations, acts of service without being asked—or whatever. Then they discover that their expectations irritated him. And the tugs of war begin , leading to nagging, tears, angry words, etc. In a word, disappointment. Of course, it works the other way too. Men are prone to think their wives should always look lovely, cook great meals, maintain a spotless home, be supportive of them—whatever their idea of what a perfect wife should be. And before long they discover that their expectations are not met.
People disappoint us—from parents and relatives to husbands and children, co-workers and managers, friends and family. We expect more than they deliver, and therefore our happiness is affected because they don't live up to our expectations.
There is no person on earth who can deliver on every promise and be everything we want him or her to be. People will always disappoint us; that's because we're all sinners and the best of us fail miserably at times.
If you've never experienced the pain of unrealistic expectations or comparison, it's either because you don't truly know God as your Lord and Savior or you're looking to other things and people to meet you needs, and not spending time getting to know Jesus.
I encourage you today to get over your unrealistic expectations by fixing your desires on Jesus Christ. As He fills you up, the other things that don't live up to your expectations will not affect your joy and your contentment nearly as much, because Jesus promises, "Never will I leave you; nor forsake you" (Hebrews 13:5b), and He can and will keep that promise. There's no disappointment in Jesus, and the more you make that truth a reality in your life, the better you will be able to get over your unrealistic expectations.