Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Four Pointers To Becoming A Better Communicator


Four Pointers To Becoming a Better Communicator

Have you discovered how challenging it is to truly communicate accurately, clearly, and effectively?  Good communication skills are perhaps the most difficult area for most of us to conquer, and for sure good communication skills are essential for success.
 
For those of us who profess a personal relationship with God through Jesus Christ, we should be motivated to become better communicators because we represent the Lord.  But in addition, learning to communicate better will eliminate a lot of problems you may now be encountering.  I can promise you that your relationships will improve as your communication skills improve, and it certainly can do your career no harm to become intentional about being a better communicator.
 
Here are four easy pointers to help you become a better communicator.  If you will become intentional about these concepts, pray about them, and daily practice them, you will reap many benefits in your life:
 
1.  Work on your verbal skills—your choice of words.
 
It’s not so much what you say, but what words you choose to say.  Think: “How would I feel if someone said that to me?”  All too often people are reacting to our choice of words rather than the message.
 
Proverbs 18:21: The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
 
Proverbs 12:18: Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
 
Proverbs 25:15: Through patience a ruler can be persuaded, and a gentle tongue can break a bone.
 
Proverbs 25:11: A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver.
 
2.  Eliminate verbal crutches (for example, “like,” “you know”).
 
Any word or phrase you use repeatedly can become a verbal crutch.  It diminishes your professionalism and makes you sound uncertain and nervous.
 
3.  Make sure the sound of your voice carries the right message.
 
Don’t speak too loudly, too softly, too harshly, too lifeless, or too fast.  The sound of your voice communicates even louder than the words you speak.  Put a smile on your face and your words will have a much friendlier, warmer sound.
 
4.  Work on improving your non-verbal communication.
 
What people see has a stronger impact on their opinion or perception than what they hear.
  • Smile more.  It costs you nothing and buys you so much!
  • Have a firm hand shake.  A wimpy hand shake is worse than no hand shake.
  • Give good eye contact.  That communicates sincerity, honesty, and caring.
  • Dress appropriately.  Believe it or not, people will form opinions of you based on how you look, and if it is inappropriate, they will tend to discount what you say and give it less credence.
Proverbs 15:30: A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and good news gives health to the bones.

Remember:  “Perception equals reality,” and people will jump to conclusions about you based on how you communicate. It will pay big dividends if you will become intentional about improving your communication skills.

2 Corinthians 8:21:  For we are taking pains to do what is right, not only in the eyes of the Lord but also in the eyes of men.

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